38: Samantha
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After the funeral, Samantha, her siblings, and their father return home exhausted and grieving. Their father reveals that their late grandmother had withheld a serious heart condition and likely died from it, then says Lisa’s dementia care has become unsustainable and proposes moving her to memory care. The family argues over cost, promises made to Lisa, and suspicions about their father’s late-night absences, culminating in a painful confrontation. The chapter ends with Tristan storming out after grabbing a bottle of wine, while the others grapple with the dilemma.
Summary
Following the funeral, Samantha, Jeneva, Tristan, and their father return home somber and fatigued. They gather in the kitchen with snacks and drinks, and Samantha changes into Xavier’s hoodie, feeling his absence. Their father initiates a serious conversation, revealing that their grandmother had told him months earlier she needed an aortic valve replacement and chose not to undergo the risky surgery; he believes this is what caused her death.
The siblings are shocked and hurt that the grandmother kept this from them and that their father honored her request not to tell. The father then pivots, saying it is time to consider a memory care facility for Lisa, explaining he is exhausted and cannot continue managing her advancing dementia needs alone. Tristan challenges him, and the father details the grueling reality: sleepless nights, showering, dressing, diapers, and managing sundowning. He argues Lisa’s condition has progressed beyond what they can handle at home.
Samantha proposes intermediate steps—adjusting medications, earlier bedtime, and limited home health aide coverage during work hours—while Jeneva volunteers to help with showers and shorter caregiver shifts. The father counters with the prohibitive costs of in-home care versus a facility, noting that he and the grandmother had already discussed memory care as the practical path. Tristan objects to institutionalizing Lisa and highlights the high cost of facilities as well.
The siblings debate finances and obligations. Jeneva says she cannot afford more, given her responsibilities as a single mother and the remodel costs, while Samantha pledges family unity moving forward. Their father remains doubtful the proposed fixes will be more than a temporary Band-Aid and emphasizes the goal of preserving Lisa’s dignity and the family’s quality time with her, even if that means placing her in a facility and visiting daily.
Tristan escalates by accusing their father of cheating during his late-night absences. The father, visibly worn, does not deny seeking companionship or relief, stating he still loves Lisa but is living with a relentless, isolating burden as her caregiver to someone who barely recognizes him. He refuses to apologize for what he needs to survive emotionally and tells the siblings to decide by tomorrow; he will abide by their decision.
After he leaves, Tristan presses the accusation, but Jeneva defends their father’s need for some happiness given the circumstances, prioritizing Lisa’s care realities over the moral judgment. The argument culminates with Tristan, distraught, seizing a bottle of Merlot, flipping off Jeneva, and storming out, leaving Samantha and Jeneva to reckon with the unresolved decision about Lisa’s care.
Who Appears
- Samantha
narrator; comforts family, proposes in-home support and medication adjustments for Lisa.
- Jeneva
Samantha’s sister; drinks wine, argues finances, volunteers to help with showers, defends their father’s need for relief.
- Tristan
Samantha’s brother; challenges their father, accuses him of cheating, rejects memory care, storms out with a bottle of wine.
- Dad
Samantha’s father; reveals grandmother’s heart condition and refusal of surgery, proposes memory care for Lisa due to caregiver burnout and costs, implies late-night coping/companionship.
- Lisa
Samantha’s mother; off-page subject of care discussion, described as progressing in dementia with complex needs.
- Grandmother
deceased; posthumously revealed to have needed an aortic valve replacement and chose not to have surgery.
- Pugsly and Pooter
pets; briefly tended by Samantha.
- Xavier
Samantha’s boyfriend; absent but referenced through his hoodie and charcuterie board.